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articles on making and keeping friends
When we say certain people are difficult, we might mean we don’t understand them, or we might mean they are being very cruel to us. People are different in many ways, but for now let’s examine these two categories where we have trouble getting along with others. If we can differentiate these two groups, we … Read more Dealing with Difficult People
Some people abandon God when their lives don’t turn out the way they wanted. They believe God owed them something, often a circumstance which did not happen (such as praying for a person to live, but he or she died anyway). Often these people will say God let them down, and they can no longer … Read more Abandoning God When Disappointed?
In an earlier post, “When Bad Life Patterns Repeat,” I said abusers are attracted to people who believe the bad lies (lies that say the person is not worthy of anything good). I want to clarify that abusers initially pursue all women, not just those who believe lies of low self esteem. This does not … Read more Bad Guys Pursue Everyone: It’s not Your Fault
When we don’t understand or work through old problems, we repeat them, and these problems become “bad life patterns.” We hear of daughters of alcoholic fathers (or those with other addictions) who marry alcoholics, to the daughter’s regret. Women who have suffered other pain too can end up repeating mistakes over and over. Why would … Read more When Bad Life Patterns Repeat
People ask, “Why does God send people to Hell?” Some people also say God is cruel for creating Hell for people. Yet neither of these complaints are true. Technically, God does not need to send people to Hell (they are already doomed, which I’ll explain), and He did not create Hell for people. God did … Read more Since God “Sends” No one to Hell, why Does Anyone Go to Hell?
Researchers don’t surprise us when they say social media, and Covid only made people feel more isolated, sad and anxious. We sense this in our hearts. But even Christians might think we are alone (strange, weird, carrying problems no one else carries), when we are not, or at least we shouldn’t stay alone. Although this … Read more Don’t Go it Alone: Tell Someone When You are Hurting
* this post follows 2 others on personality (“No favorite child” and “4 Greek Temperaments”) and builds on those 2 posts. Love Language (love preference) is another area where gals differ from one another (and from men). When we learn how people express their love differently, we can better meet their needs and have … Read more Love Languages: love preferences
Each of my daughters asks me to say, “You are my favorite child,” and I always say, “No, I can’t have a favorite child. My sense of mercy is so strong, if I thought I preferred one of you, I would feel so sad for the neglected child, I would have to love her just … Read more No Favorite Child: Intro to personalities and temperament
We gals need friends, in plural. Having one best friend, to the exclusion of other friends, limits our emotional and spiritual growth. We need friends from different walks of life (economic, racial, educational, and even by personality). We also need more than one best friend, because we can become needy or even codependent when we … Read more More Than One Friend